Where Compassion Begins (Handbook for Incarcerated Persons Edition)
by Jared Seide
2021 · Beyond Us and Them Publications · 264 pages
Where Compassion Begins... is an invitation to build the muscle of compassion, through exercises and practices that enhance our capacity to listen from the heart and, in so doing, take care of ourselves and those around us.
Compassion is sometimes confused with empathy, or even sympathy. It is neither, though it includes some aspects of both. Compassion begins when we allow ourselves to really hear and attune to suffering, that of others, as well as ourselves. And hearing and perceiving this anguish, we are moved to do something about it. What takes compassion beyond sympathy or empathy is that it includes action, action that is considered, skillful and beneficial.
When we listen differently to someone’s story, without judging, we create the conditions for compassion to arise. The practice of Council, described and explained in this book, asks us to lean in, to learn ways we can skillfully attend to the pain we recognize in ourselves and others, and to do something helpful in response.
Jack M. Zimmerman, author of The Way of Council, writes: “Where Compassion Begins is exactly what is needed now to bring the essence of compassionate communication more fully into the contemporary world. Jared Seide has woven together the practices of council and meditation in a personal and accessible way that supports tangible life practices along the path of the heart. Where Compassion Begins is an imaginative bridge from the traditional roots of council and meditation to this moment in evolution, with contemporary references to science, medicine and recent understanding of the human condition.”
This book is intended to provide a resource for anyone who has had an opportunity to sit in a Council circle, or whose curiosity has been ignited by what the practice of council may have to offer. It offers explanations, definitions and distinctions that have been culled from many years of council practice in many settings. It also includes material created to encourage and support extending the teachings of Council into one's life, outside of the Council circle. The core intentions of listening and speaking from the heart can unfold in every facet of one's life, well beyond the experience of the Council circle. This book provides a roadmap for the journey of discovery along this rich path. [Text Source: Beyond Us and Them Publications]
